Why Men Don’t Write to Curvy Women on the Internet

Hi Evan,

I have been online dating for about two months and it’s been so-so thus far.  My problem is deciding how to list my body type.  I’m 5’3″ and an hourglass-ish size 10, so while I’m not obese, I’m definitely not “athletic and toned.”  I chose pictures that I think accurately show this.


Anyway, at first I listed myself as “A few pounds extra” thinking it was an honest description.  Well, two male co-workers were talking about online dating and mentioned that they’d never contact a girl that was in that class or “curvy”, because any time they’d met one in the past, she’d been much heavier than in her pictures.

I’m wondering if this is why guys will view me a lot, but won’t make contact. The guys who have made contact have been people that I probably would not have dated normally, i.e., no steady job or just a little odd.

4 Responses to Why Men Don’t Write to Curvy Women on the Internet

  1. James says:

    I love all women. I Will not sleep with a woman that is obese I will be their friend. But a lady that’s your size I would be very happy to be a friend & hopefully you would find me intriguing enough to allow me to be more than that.

  2. Somalia says:

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  4. Miguel says:

    This woman has men thinking she is BIG? Is this a put on? She definititely is ‘curvy’ and that does not mean rolls. I don’t want to call “BS” but if that is a real woman’s pic what is she asking for looks wise? I see women online on dating sites and she looks better than A LOT of them. I can say this-I see women who have narrow criteria and are BIG women who want men who are in the gym 5x/wk and are very fit. And they wonder why they are lonely. *** I have no idea about this woman in the picture***, I just mentioned experiences I have come across.

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